There is a disease out there that affects our mind, body,
and soul. It harms us physically, mentally, and emotionally. It harms not only
the person with the disease but also the family and friends of this person. Do
you know what I am talking about? I am talking about alcoholism/addiction. Over
18 million Americans are estimated to have the disease of alcoholism. They say
that one in four people are addicts or alcoholics. I have people in my family
who are affected by this disease and I personally have seen the effects that it
has on the family and more so on the child. I have also seen friends who have
died from the disease. Did you know that when a person close to you has the
disease and you are an enabler or codependent that you can be just as sick as
they are? You do not have to have a drink or a drug to be sick, but mentally
you become very ill. Sometimes the family members suffer so badly that the
disease overcomes them and they become sicker than the addicted. I have met
families where the family member had actually taken their own life or became so
mentally ill that they had to have serious interventions such as medications
and counseling, sometimes even hospitalization.
So what do you think that this does to the children in your
family? The children who you think might not know or understand, they are much
more observant than you think. Children have a sense of danger, illness, or
sadness. For example, Dad is an alcoholic and Mom is doing everything in her
power to get Dad to quit, make him better, cover up his mistakes, and keep the
family running. She becomes run down, depressed, or irritated. The children are
the ones who suffer more than anyone. Even if they do not see the actual act,
they still suffer. And then there are the children who actually witness some of
the most horrific acts while a person can be under the influence. The children
start to become depressed, stressed out, emotionally and physically exhausted.
This will have a large influence on their growth and development. When children
cannot concentrate they cannot perform well in school, when they are depressed
they have poor nutrition, when they have lack of sleep they are also irritated
and misbehave. I could go on and on about the poor effects of this disease on a
child and in their growth and development.
After looking at the World Health Organization article about
substance abuse I was surprised (http://www.who.int/bulletin/volumes/82/9/editorial20904html/en/)
It talks about how developing countries have so many stressors that the rates
of substance abuse are higher because of their living conditions. I am not
surprised by the fact that people turn to substance abuse when stressed.
However I am surprised that in developing countries where there is little to no
money they can afford to buy drugs and alcohol.
This disease is real and is devastating to the mind and body
not only of the abuser, but to the family around them. If you know someone who
is in need of help you can visit this website http://www.helpguide.org/mental/drug_substance_abuse_addiction_signs_effects_treatment.htm
Or look to your local AA or Al Anon organization for guides
to help in your area.
I agree with you because my husband suffers from the same illness. He does not want to get any help because according to him he does not have a problem. This has not affected my children (that's what I think)probably because he is responsible and not aggressive in any form. Thank you for the information.
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